Nov 11, 2022
What is happening, Fashion
Besties? How fabulous have you had to look this week? As for Holly,
she was HOME. ALL. WEEK. Don’t be concerned. It
So, with a little downtime, we
started sifting through her DMs and emails and decided to share
just a few of the questions we get from listeners and
Y’all have gotten so fashionably
savvy and smart! Your questions remind us that we have many areas
yet to discuss, and we are so proud of the listeners that check
with us before they commit a fashion crime! #TRUTH
We love that you are reaching
out and asking, because this is how you learn, and this is how your
style evolves. #SoProud
First, some starters:
What to wear when you are home all day or working from
- NO CRAPPY PJs or SWEATS. Just
because you do not step over the threshold for a day or two, you do
not have the right to slob-out. Someone might come to your door and
then you'll be diving behind the couch. Your dog needs to be
walked. You probably need to get the mail. You may have a Facetime
call with your mother. Who knows? What you wear to bed, and around
the house, is just as important as what you wear out the door. More
on this later.
- For Holly, she started wearing her stepson’s
oversized and comfy T-shirts to bed. This quickly turned into a
very unsexy fashion crime. So, she decided to up her pajama game
with cute and comfy PJ sets and you know what? She quickly realized
that a 'put together' look even for bed is better when you are
trying to not look like a slob around the house. A mix of
practical yet comfortable with a splash of sexy – and of course -
is machine washable. When you look good, you feel good; even when
you are sleeping.
What to do when you HATE shopping:
Sidebar rant: Some people
like to shop. They evolve their style with their age. They're
naturally excelling in life. Fashion and style are fun for them.
They enjoy getting dressed. Just because you are a woman does not
mean you automatically know from birth how to shop, or even like to
shop or enjoy getting dressed. THAT’S OKAY!
- Women are supposed to have it all, including
knowing how to look good, defy their age and continue working until
they literally can't in their later years. But look, you're either
born with a shopping gene or not. If not, this is a learned skill
that you can master just like anything else.
- The #1 reason people hating
shopping is you think nothing fits your body shape. First
solution: Shop for the body you have today. Not the 10 pounds you
are going to lose someday. And don’t wear what you wore 15 years
ago. Face the facts, go into a store, try on current styles, and
let a salesperson help you find your fit. ASK FOR HELP.
- The #2 reason people hate
shopping is you
don’t know what you're looking for coupled with being stuck in a
style rut. Yes, you might take an occasional shopping trip out of
sheer life-threatening circumstances. like getting divorced, or a
new job, or you're going to an important event that’s going to
force you into an overwhelming department store when you realize
a). you haven't shopped in 10 or 15 years, or
b). you try on 2 things and then come to the
conclusion that nothing in the world fits you. From here, there's
usually a "get me out of here" fight going on in your head with you
and your inner voice saying, that you can totally do this, but by
this time you're in the car already. This usually leads to an "See,
nothing ever fits me..." freak out and bout of over ordering
online...(FASHION CRIME), or opt out of the event altogether to
avoid the stress of finding an outfit. Sound like someone you know?
Holly is here today to share
real answers to real questions submitted by 2 of our fashion
insider besties. Only the first question is in the show notes here.
Make sure you listen to the full episode to hear all of the
questions and truth bomb answers!!!
I usually wear basics and
neutral colors. But recently I've been in the mood to try something
more stylish. How do I do this without embarrassing
This question, to be honest,
really hurts my heart. This is somebody who obviously has been in
their fashion comfort zone most of their lives. But as we’ve
discussed before, when you shop for color, or for price, this is
called shopping backward. Do not do this. You want to shop forward, or
shop with intention, which means you shop for FIT FIRST. Not color,
not price, not sales, not, 'I'll find a place to wear this,"
Shopping for color and thinking
that this is a great way to get yourself out of your comfort zone
is not a good idea. Because you don't shop for color, you shop for
The best advice we can give is
to go into a store, look at the displays and the mannequins. Look
at department store websites to see what's trending, best sellers,
and the newest styles. Ask for help and try things on. But do not
buy something just because of the color or the price.
Pro Tip: Listen to Episode 97
How to Dress Right for Your Body Type
This answer leads us to a TON of
other issues about how to shop:
- Calm down, you're not looking for a ball gown.
You are simply looking for a change. You want to be more on trend,
you want to feel confident at an upcoming event, you want to evolve
your style and you want to try something new! Don’t overthink it or
try to spend a ton of money on designer clothes thinking that this
will solve all of your problems. Start small.
- If you work out a few days a week, it will pay
to invest in your workout clothes. Try to plan your days around
outfits that will carry you from pickleball to the pick-up line
with ease. Plan your wardrobe-it will pay off.
- Don’t overspend or shop for clothes at
cheap, big box stores. Think about CPW,
which is Cost Per Wear. If it fits you perfectly, your confidence
will go up. If that costs a little more, just think about how many
times you will wear something you love. If it is a cheap trend or
color, and fits you poorly, you may only wear it once (FASHION
- When you don't shop for a long time, you have
no idea what things cost or why they cost so much. And you also
don't see the value of spending money on clothes. This is called a
financial block. Don’t wait years to shop.
- Don’t give up on your style. If no one dresses
in your family, at your office or in your circle of friends, this
is not reason to stop upgrading your wardrobe. Be the best dressed
because you are going to get dressed, whether you go to the office
or to the grocery store. Just becuase you are getting dressed
doesn't mean you are "so dressed up...". You're just
To recap, wanting something new
in your wardrobe is empowering. Do things in your life that do not
deplete you. Because when you deplete, deplete, deplete all the
time, you have nothing left to give.
Do something for yourself.
Especially if you feel guilty about spending money on yourself. You
need to fill your own cup, so that you can then fill
Once you know how to dress in a
way that makes you feel good (FIT), everything in your life is
going to shift. People are going to start to ask you if you've lost
weight, changed your hair, etc. There is something different about
you because you decided to focus on you. The energy shift is
And you're going to want to keep
continuing to feel that way, which will encourage you to keep your
wardrobe rotating, which will keep you practicing how to shop,
which in turn is going to get you to stop hating shopping, which
makes you nicer. And
when you are nice, you're going to be nicer to me. And when I'm
nice, everything runs smoothly.
Go shopping, get help in the
store, try something new, make sure it fits. And, send us more
Listen to this full episode 117 to hear what our other fashion
besties want to know about!
Keep them coming!
Your favorite personal stylist,
The Only Holly You need to Know